Showing posts with label engagement encounter. Show all posts
Showing posts with label engagement encounter. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Engagment Encounter-Recap

So the engagement encounter was great! At times it was hard for me, because I don't like to be in large groups of people, especially people I don't know (yeah group trips will not be in my future plans as of now.) I am not sure why that is, it just is. But the benefits definitely outweigh this one detail. It was great to see so many couples in love and making this commitment to each other even when marriage has such a bad rap.


Ok here we go: First of, the location was beautiful! Secondly, we got to really talk about issues that will come up in our marriage and spend quality alone time. We have discussed many of these things before (money, kids etc.). But it was more meaningful to actually write things down and then really discuss them, without noise or feeling rushed. The encounter also challenges you to look at where you disagree as individuals. Although it was a "Catholic" encounter many people were not Catholic, and some were not even getting married by a priest, they simply wanted some form of pre-marital counseling, which I think is a great idea for all who will be tying the knot or have plans to. The couples that led the encounter were amazing mentors. One couple had been married for 58 years! That's right 58! The other had overcome many challenges, including the wife being diagnosed, battling and then overcoming breast cancer. Both couples were such an inspiration and a true example of real commitment and unconditional love. The priest was hilarious and we really felt comfortable with him. He helped us learn that marriage is not just marriage, it is a commitment, vocation, and a holy sacrament. Overall we really took in the encounter's theme, "A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime." Sometimes we get caught up in the details, which is fine =). But it is good to be reminded of the bigger picture as well, that on that special day, after you seal the deal with a kiss, you start your own family and life journey together.





photo credit: Jessica Lewis

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Engagement Encounter

This weekend Mr. DJ and I will be off on our engagement encounter in Santa Barbara, CA. What is an engagement encounter you ask? Well it is more than a requirement to get married in the Catholic Church. The Catholic Engaged Encounter of Los Angeles, California describes it as “an investment in the future - a weekend experience in which an atmosphere is created that enables each couple to concentrate exclusively on one another while free of the pressures and interruptions of daily life. Couples are given the opportunity to question, examine and deepen their relationship with each other. Through a series of writing and sharing exercises the couples are challenged to explore many aspects of their relationship in a much deeper, more honest way than they may have before.”

For the entire weekend, Mr. DJ and I will get to spend time with each other and discuss our relationship and future together. Journaling and open dialogue are just a few techniques used to help couples communicate. I cannot wait for this opportunity! Life gets crazy and it is not all the time that you have the opportunity to be with your significant other away from all the craziness that life presents you with. And it does not hurt that it is taking place in one of our favorite cities ;). As mentioned in the post below, Santa Barbara is special to us because it is the city where our relationship really developed and it is also the place were we got engaged (story to come later). Not to mention it is beautiful and full of great restaurants where we can eat before and after the retreat.

When speaking with people who have attended the encounter, they have nothing but good things to say. They all mention how much they enjoyed it and how beautiful and worthwhile it is. One friend even mentioned how she and her husband wrote vows for each other there, and they now re-read them to each other on each anniversary. That is just too cute if you ask me.

I will make sure to let you all know how it went for us.

Have you been on an engagement encounter? How did it go for you?

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